Baby Talk

June 10, 2013

Baby Animals vs Baby Humans via 9GAGAndrew and I haven’t been married all that long (3 years tomorrow, actually) but by most people’s standards we’re no longer newlyweds. And also by most people’s standards that seems to mean that we should be popping out a kid here soon. Or at least thinking about.

Yeah, no thanks.

I get asked that daunting question quite often these days, “So Kim, when are you going to start having babies.” And I’m like, first of all why does it have to be plural, maybe I only want one. And second, I’m not even 23 years old yet, let me live people!

I’m not saying that my life would be over once I have a child, but yeah I kind of am. That’s the way it feels to me anyway. And that right there is probably a good indication that I am in no way ready to reproduce.

There’s just so much that I want to accomplish and experience before I even think about having a kid. Things like going back to college, having my own business, doing a missions trip, and most of all I would really just love to have some time where it’s just Andrew and I and neither of us is in school. But that won’t be happening for another five years probably.

I also know that I am neither emotionally nor spiritually mature enough to take on the task of raising a human being. Taking care of a baby isn’t what freaks me out. It’s the fact that I am responsible for influencing and molding another human soul. All of his/her first ideas and thoughts about the world are a direct result of my teaching. I don’t think I’m cut out for that. Not now anyway. Maybe not ever, I don’t know.

I guess I just feel like it’s so expected of us to procreate, and to do so soon. Especially in the Christian community, it’s just the norm to get married young and start having babies within a couple of years. Now that’s great for some people. I have no doubt that there are couples who were made to be parents, but Andrew and I are not among them.

We have no experience with babies, don’t know how to interact with toddlers, and don’t really enjoy being around children.

Of course if God were to intervene and we did end up getting pregnant now or in the near future, we wouldn’t be mad about it, it’s just not something we’re actively trying to achieve. And it won’t be for a while.

So that’s my shpeel about babies. Sorry for talking (typing?) your ear off about it. It’s just been on my mind a lot lately because just about everyone I hang out with these days has a kid, is pregnant, or trying to get pregnant. And I’m just here writing a blog post, trying to start a design business, and loving on my cat.

And I am totally fine with that.


  1. My husband and I have been married for nearly 5 years. We get the baby talk from a lot of people (more acquaintances and distant relatives than close friends or relatives). I am very happy that we've had this time together. I love him, and I love having us established before we grow a family. Babies are expensive and demand a lot, and while I'd love to be a mom (like yesterday), I think we made the right choice for our relationship.

  2. My husband and I will have been married for 3 years next weekend, and I'm 22. We've had lots and lots of people ask us when we're going to have kids, and I usually remind them that I'm only 22 and Brian is only 25, so we have some time. I used to think my life would end if I got pregnant, I'm past that now, but still not in any hurry :)


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